Don't get me wrong. People have been incredibly awesomely great to me.
And I know that it's partly that people don't get it, and that they don't know what to say. But still.
It gets on my last nerve when I say, it's quiet around here, and people say, "oh, you'll find things to fill the time!" Or, "join some groups!" Or anything that comes in a cheery perky let's-move-on tone.
It's not easy like that. You don't just fill in the spaces where people used to be. You don't just retool your life in 30 seconds. And you can't just join clubs and get out there and fill time. Because there aren't those clubs, there aren't those things that just piece in like that. It's not an instant restart, and even if it was, it wouldn't be simple like that.
I don't mind the awkwardness, the fact that you don't have any solutions for me. I know that there aren't any quick solutions. I don't want them. (Well, sure, if you had them, I'd take it.) I just want you not to trivialize the kind of pain that I'm in every single day by acting like it doesn't exist, that every night isn't incredibly, awfully hard. I want you to see that and acknowledge that, even if it's uncomfortable for you.
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